So, you’re in a relationship, saw this and thought you’d just double check that you’re not annoying your single friends (too much). Well, that’s great because acceptance is always the first step to resolving any issue. Having single friends when in a relationship can be quite the challenge because even though you may be in a good place and feeling the happiest you’ve ever been, it’s not always the case for everyone around you. Here are some ingenious do’s and don’ts to follow that will keep your singleton pals sweet whilst you’re all loved up.
Take the hint: your friends just want to see you
If your SO (significant other) is specifically invited, cool. If not, go along to the get-together solo and socialise with your besties. Gate-crashing as a couple doesn’t gel all too well with single friends who thought you’d be having a proper catch-up.
Make extra effort with your single friends
Surprise them with getaway plans or a little break away. By putting a ban on any relationship talk and exploring a new place together, it will be like old times. Think back to life before you got into your feels and the things you used to love doing together that you maybe don’t do anymore.
Be considerate of shared living spaces
No matter whose place you’re at, if either of you has housemates, keep in mind that one of you is just a visitor. If you’re not on the tenancy you shouldn’t really be staying over any more than a couple nights a week. This is a golden rule when it comes to dealing with single friends in particular. Oh, and keep the noise down, but you know that.
Socialise in multiple circles
So you’ve got your friends and their friends but how many of “said friends” do you now share? It’s healthy to have your own friendship circles that don’t involve your SO who wouldn’t be in contact with them if – touch wood – you ever broke up. It’s important to maintain good relationships with different people because you need your own spaces too, not to mention extra friends who can openly give you advice with your very best interests at heart.
Broadcast every single moment on social media
Relationships should be private and something special that you share with your SO. The world doesn’t need to know about every date night you have or every anniversary you’re counting down to. It’s these sorts of things that will trigger your single friends the most.
Bang on and on about your partner
If people are interested and asking you questions about your most recent holiday with bae, give them all the deets they want. Just be conscious not to overload your audience with constant updates, pictures and stories about your SO. Your single friends don’t understand your cute inside jokes either.
Forget that two hearts don’t literally become one
There is nothing more annoying than a couple who constantly refer to themselves as ‘we’. “I’ll see if we have the money”, “I’ll let you know if we’re around”, “Let me just see what we’re doing before that”. We, we, we. You can do things on your own whether you’re SO is invited or not.
Force your friends on double dates or set them up
If you really want to avoid being one of those annoying couples who your single friends hate, this is 100% a no-go. Lots of people are single by choice and are fully enjoying that lifestyle. The less you fuss over them about trying to hook them up the better.
Make every drinking game about sex
We’ve all been there when playing a cheeky game of Never Have I Ever and all the couples (aka the majority of sexually active folk) turn it into a competition about who’s having the most sex. There are many other funny things to confess about e.g. guilty pleasures and excruciatingly embarrassing experiences. The last thing you want to do is exclude your single friends.
Become a PDA offender
Finally, let’s talk about public displays of affection. A quick smooch at a party? Yes. Groping or crude gestures? Absolutely not. A great way to keep everyone happy at a get-together is to go out of your way and plant yourself right in the middle of your single friends. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to be glued to your SO everywhere you go. This way you’ll come across in a rather cool manner and you can get back to your old kinky ways when you leave together later that night.